The Fast: text messaging

I honestly do not know who all reads my blog. I know of a few people, based on comments, and of course my dad, mom and mother in law but other than that I don’t know who actually reads this stuff. With that said, I do kind of hope some of my friends read this because it will explain my first fast, text messaging, which actually effects a lot of people!

I fear I may idolize my phone.

Main Entry: idol·a·try

1 : the worship of a physical object as a god 2 : immoderate attachment or devotion to something

Yep, immoderate attachment sums it up perfectly.

1 Corinthians 10:14
Therefore, dear friends, flee from idolatry.

I’ll try and keep this strictly about texting and my own personal issue with it.

My phone just keeps me so distracted. I think we can all agree, whether you are guilty of it yourself or not, that this is definitely a problem today. I can’t set my phone down anymore! While we are out to dinner, while we are driving, while I am sitting having a conversation with someone else IN PERSON, it’s like nothing can wait anymore. We HAVE to have and give immediate responses. My mind is always worried that “someone’s waiting on the other line and they need to hear my response right away!” I mean for real, talk about RUDE. I should be more concerned about the people who are presently with me then the ones who are not. Especially when those ones with me are my husband, my children, my family, friends, or more importantly, Jesus. When I am with people, I want them to have my full attention and my phone is creating a problem in that department.

For me, and allow me some grace and let me be real here, text messaging has just become so incessant! Perpetual! Constant!! Ringing any bells here? It’s to the point that it’s beyond simply delivering an important message in place of a phone call. I send (and receive, sorry y’all!) some of the most pointless, unproductive messages. Not all but yes there’s a lot of meaningless text messaging going on for me. And yeah sometimes it’s fun! And it IS nice that we have all this technology at our finger tips and it certainly makes things convenient, quick, and easy. But I miss the days when we actually TALKED, like I hear you, you hear me. (I know, I’m 26 years old and feel like I’m from the Stone Age!) I like being able to hear people’s voice. Their tone, their emotions. Too often text messaging can be misinterpreted and I really can become overwhelmed trying to read between the lines. I get tired of discussing important matters via text! I know I’m weird, not everyone is wired like me, but often I will get nervous, sweaty and anxious trying to respond to text messages, over thinking them, “does that sound kind of mean?” “Will they take that the wrong way?” “Better put another smiling, winking, kissing emoticon in there!!” My word! Can we just pick up the phone and talk this out! Not to mention we get in these lengthy texts where a phone call would actually be a lot more efficient. There have even been a few times when Jason and I have tried resolving conflict through text message. Define ludicrous.

My fear is that text messaging is over connecting me but at the same time reducing the depth and intimacy of my relationships.

I’m doing this because I love you!

But wait, don’t start clapping yet. I’m also doing this because I don’t want to sin against you.

Recently, I find myself feeling as though text messaging can be disingenuous. I think we get caught in knowing that we CAN send something immediate but then, again y’all I’m sorry, I will question how sincere and thoughtful the message actually is. Its almost TOO easy. And while I have found myself being judgmental I also think “Maybe I have come off as not being genuine as well. By sending some quick, meaningless text.” “Happy birthday!” “Praying for you!” “Get well soon!” “Thanks for the birthday present!”

I want this year to be the start of more authenticity and more thoughtfulness. Being more intentional.

I don’t want to neglect my relationship with Christ, Jason, my children, ect. because I spent so much time texting.

I don’t want to be offensive because I made my phone seem more important than the person.

I don’t want to judge or be judged because I lacked authenticity. I want to write more notes and send more cards. Your welcome USPS.

I want to pick up the phone and call and have meaningful conversations. Better yet I want to call and have you OVER so we can talk in person. With coffee 🙂 . (And then NOT be interrupted by my phone 😉 )

I want to know and love the people in my life better. Like really know you. And love you better because instead of texting I was investing. (hey that could be a slogan! Better patent that!) Investing in my own spiritual life, which will allow me to invest in you with intentional, thoughtful actions.

I want to pay attention more.

This fast goes beyond what I just expressed to you and has more to do with my need for Jesus. I need the power of His Spirit to overcome the sins I commit while texting. Yep. Text messaging really can be sinful for me. Satan works so subtly and would love to convince me other wise but I’m calling myself out here and I need to make a change. That change is Jesus.

From an article on Spiritual Fasting:

“Fasting requires self-control and discipline as one denies the natural desires of the flesh. During spiritual fasting, the believer’s focus is removed from the physical things of this world and intensely concentrated on God. Put differently, fasting directs our hunger toward God. It clears the mind and body of earthly attentions and draws us close to God. So, as we gain spiritual clarity of thought while fasting, it allows us to hear God more clearly. Fasting also demonstrates a profound need for God’s help and guidance through complete dependence upon him.”

This may seem silly to some. But it’s a change I believe is gonna be so good for me, my family and an impact that will extend to some of you all as well. It’s hard for me to explain why text messaging can be so problematic in my life. Maybe you get it? Share with me if you do! And pray for me. This is a lot easier said then done.

Matthew 26:41
“Keep watch and pray, so that you will not give in to temptation. For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak!”

Colossians 3:2, 3
Think about the things of heaven, not the things of earth. For you died to this life, and your real life is hidden with Christ in God.

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2 thoughts on “The Fast: text messaging

  1. Love this post and definitely admit I am guilty of this myself.

    I do make it apoint to instil the importance of a hand written thank you card or birthday card to the girls in my girl a out troop. Love that you posted this.

  2. Guilty as charged! Also…I confess, there has been a time or two when I thought, “Gee, I’m sitting here talking to you and you thought “texting” someone was more important!
    Love your transparency!

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